Author’s Blog


Business Woman’s Guide To Care Giving to be included

in the 2017 International Convention-Book Gallery


FullSizeRender3Violet Ink Books proudly announces that the Westbow Press edition of  Business Woman’s Guide To Care Giving by Becci Bookner will be among the books included for exhibition at the CBA UNITE 2017 International Convention-Book Gallery in Cincinnati June 28-30.  CBA UNITE is the world’s largest audience of Christian retail professionals.  The show exhibitors consist of hundreds of worldwide suppliers of Christian products.

Business Woman’s Guide To Care Giving offers real time support for those who are the caregiver for their  parents and are trying to successfully balance a career with these personal  responsibilities.  It is not just possible to do, it can be a wonderful life changing opportunity to do both.  With appropriate resources for the job ahead and proper care for your heart, it just might be the most rewarding adventure of your adult life.

Old Houses

There is something very rewarding, yet very challenging, about living in an old house. You really have to love these treasures from the past if you choose to make one the place you call home. You appreciate their peculiarities and quirks, and understand that even though they may be fabulously restored and quite beautiful, they are still and always will be, an old house.

We live in one such old house built in 1897. We think it is more than lovely and still notably remarkable after one hundred years at its address in Rutherford County. It faces due south with gorgeous old maples that will turn your head every autumn. One of these historic trees, an oak, is estimated to be over 300 years old. It has all the old house special features. Floors that squeak, walls that are not square, things that won’t work… things you wish did not work and, of course, noises in the night. It has its recorded and remembered histories of births, deaths and all the parts of family and community life in between. And with all of this, we think it has an unexplainable warmth and welcome that is all its own. Several mornings ago, I caught a glimpse of our old house in a setting I had not seen in all the years we have lived here. Just before daylight, I was walking up the back hill and there it stood like a picture from Currier and Ives. In that gentle, not quite light, time of morning, the lights of the house were pouring out through the windows, warming the cool mist and welcoming the day! It seemed to speak of days past and family, of strength and history. It looked so special. It was a scene of nostalgia and stately charm. (the previous excerpted from “Patterns of the Heart”)

Let’s reconsider how we care for aging loved ones”Becci Bookner, Author and Publisher


True story:  An executive makes a phone call to check on mom prior to attending an important meeting.  There is no answer.  After repeated calls, there is still no answer. Immediately assuming there must be an emergency, the executive leaves the meeting place and arrives home to learn that mom had just removed her hearing aid! Sound familiar? You bet it does.

In the early 1990s, my family members and I faced the dilemma of trying to maintain  professional careers, care for our immediate families, and meet the increasing needs of our elderly aunts who both required  regular personal care assistance as well as emotional and financial support.  It was challenging and often exhausting. We were ill-equipped.

Today, thankfully, many options are available to aging parents and their adult children.  Private sector in-home care services and innovative projects in faith communities are making an enormous difference to individual families who are trying to “figure it out.”

However, while there are now more resources available, I believe that there is still a great need to adjust our thinking about aging.

Aging is not a punishment for living; it is evidence that we have lived. It is another — often extraordinary — time in the life of our parents and loved ones. That said, I don’t dismiss the overwhelming challenges of caring for an older person. Based on three decades of personal experiences in caring for older family members, one conclusion is obvious. It will often seem that your best is just not good enough and you will feel guilty.

Creative ideas needed

There are many statistics and reports about aging and elder care and its impact on the workplace, social organizations, the nation’s financial and healthcare resources, and the family.  However, a new conversation is now underway. The baby boomer generation is demanding answers to questions about healthy aging, what being older really means in lifestyle changes, and new care alternatives.

This country has no shortage of creative and energetic problem solvers who will can find  solutions to the challenges of getting older.  Some physicians are reviving the old practice of making “house calls” to their patients. Seniors are devising communal living arrangements to meet their mutual physical, financial and social needs.  One more brief example:

Take a look at the aisles of the local grocery store. Seniors can select personal care products in multi-color packages with a wide assortment of choices in design, function and size.

Baby boomers have always wanted choices.  The traditional patterns and methods of caring for them as they age will not be acceptable. Consider all the options and resources that are available in 2012 that did not exist 20 years ago.  Those options and resources are going to have to multiple significantly again within the next 10 years.

As we develop new options and resources for the care of the aging, let’s remember to make the most important choice – the choice to celebrate and respect life in its final stage.