An elder care professional draws on business principles to help women with aging parents.
In this health-and-family book, Bookner (Something about Christmas, 2011) uses her experiences running a home health assistance company and acting as the primary caregiver for an aging mother to provide basic guidance to women in similar situations. She includes some specific advice: use a shredder when disposing of documents, and if an object is moved, leave notes reminding the parent of its new location. However, its primary focus is on establishing mindsets for both caregiver and parent that allow them to enjoy a strong relationship while also managing the challenges surrounding the parent’s health and safety. Bookner uses business practices as analogies for understanding the dynamics of the parent-caregiver relationship, as when she treats caregiving as a form of customer service: “Business owners are always looking for new ways to coddle customers and increase their client base. As a caregiver, the same needs apply.” The book encourages caregivers to view parents as partners, collaborating to ensure that parents’ needs are met. Caregivers, Bookner says, can offer choices and ask questions to reach solutions that will allow everyone to be satisfied. Some analogies are less obvious, such as comparing the completion of a parent’s legal documents to preparation for a major meeting, but they’re effective in helping to establish a framework for a successful caregiving arrangement. Readers who don’t share Bookner’s Southern roots may find the idea of a parent’s nostalgia for white gloves at church or addressing a parent as “ma’am” or “sir” less applicable to their own families. However, the book’s broader recommendations are more generally applicable and can help readers turn a potentially burdensome responsibility into an opportunity for strengthening relationships and personal growth.
A concise but thorough handbook on caregiving. (Book Review by Kirkus Reviews)
Elder Care Expert Becci Bookner publishes “Put It in Writing” an important tool to help gather and organize information and final wishes.
Murfreesboro, TN – Elder care expert Becci Bookner of Murfreesboro knows that no one has all the answers when it comes to planning for life’s events, especially at the end of life. However, her recently published organizational tool, “Put It in Writing” designed to help pull together instructions, documents, personal history and family heritage information in one place to provide a helpful planning guide and resource is available in the Deluxe Binder, Spiralbound Softback, Keepsake Calendar and E-book format online. (excerpt: Varallo Public Reations)
The Readers write to the Author…
Something About Christmas
I bought your book, “Something About Christmas” after reading the article in the newspaper. After I read it…I bought the other three in the series. I appreciate the tender words, the sound advice and the recipes for a better holiday. Thank you for caring. Ed M.
I have made some family members very happy with the gift of your Christmas book. Please don’t stop writing. It is great to celebrate aging and get inspired by your words. Gerry M
Patterns of the Heart
Thanks for your books. “Patterns of the Heart” caught me in the first two sentences. My mom was born in 1913 and her name was “Gracie” as well. Your book should be on the “must read” list of anyone aging; for anyone who knows someone aging. It’s nice to know we are all walking the same road. Roberta E.
“Cooks who Care”
There is nothing like your little cookbook, “Cooks Who Care” which I adored. It was a terrific present when we went to visit my auntie in her home. At 74 she is going strong. I’m going to buy your Christmas book for her and watch her smile. Joan W.
When a friend showed me the” Cooks Who Care” I knew I had the right gift for my oldest sister. She cant do what she used to now she is 82 but has always enjoyed cooking. This book will please her to no end. Alicia P
“Something About Christmas” is a hopeful look into the magic of Christmas for the “grown olders” among us. “Santa Claus is a Senior Citizen.” .
“Although he’s a big hero for many a child, he’s also the “ultimate icon” of Christmas for all ages — especially for the “aging olders” — if you really think about it,” said local author, former educator and entrepreneur Becci Bookner, continuing, “He’s a bit too heavy, he has a round waist, white hair, but he’s such a symbol of joy.” Article published in the Daily News Journal.
The book, which is small enough to fit neatly in a purse, imparts wit and wisdom Santa can teach us. “He sees the worst and he sees the best, yet he maintains that a plate of cookies and a glass of milk can solve a lot of problems,” and the writer relates those little Santa-centric gems to today’s world, particularly relating it to a senior citizen’s point of view.“Of all the holidays, Christmas is probably the happiest. But for a lot of people, it’s the time of year they get depressed,” said Bookner, who owns Family Staffing Solutions Inc., a company that provides care and assistance for the aging. These “grown-olders have experienced the loss of loved ones, distance from family, isolation, loss of many intrinsic expectations which can be difficult. Yet, the readers are encouraged to remember that enthusiasm Santa embodies and translate it to the “Christmas within us.” “If you don’t have family here, there are still things you can do to have joy … and find other ways to celebrate the season. Don’t get caught up in the ‘entrapments’ of gifting.” Along with some holiday recipes subimitted by Mrs. Claus, there is another section of the book that is a collection of sayings the author has received over the years and she hopes they will stick with readers, from “smile more often” to “opportunities are everywhere; find them.” More of this story can be found on http://www.dnj.com/ website.